The Complexity of Silence
I have come to realize the importance of silence. Silence is a form of communication as well as a state of being. Let me explain:
When I was younger I used to study with the radio or tv on as I needed the background noise. Actually I would have them on whenever I was home whether I was paying attention to what I heard or not. Now, well I like the silence. I don’t need the “noise”. I have enough noise in my brain that I do not need to bombard it with any more distractions. I suppose there was a time I didn’t want to feel alone and so the noise gave me comfort. As I have grown in age and wisdom (I hope!), I realize I don’t mind being alone. I get very little of it and so I welcome it. I am confident and secure and know I can reach out to others if I so choose. So the silence is now a gift. While being a social person I also see the value of being alone and silent.
Silence allows me to assess myself, my environment, my goals and my well being. As a therapeutic measure, I often teach others the benefits of being mindful of yourself and your surroundings. It helps center you and allows you to go forth in a positive and peaceful direction. This can include meditation, yoga, or simply sitting in a quite environment.
Of course silence can also be a form of communication. Just ask my husband; when I am mad at him I will be silent. As the saying goes “when you don’t have anything positive to say, don’t say anything.” Silence can mean you are contemplating how to respond; you don’t want to speak in anger; or you are just listening and taking note of what is being said. So often we are busy preparing in our mind what we want to say that we do not even hear the other person! Silence can also just mean you do not want to speak. It may not mean you are mad, angry or frustrated. That leaves a lot of interpretation hanging in the silence! So do not assume. Ask what the silence means from the other person. You might be surprised!
Along your path may you find silence when and where you need it. May it bring you and others peace!