You See Me but Do You Know Me?
When you first meet someone, do you notice what they are wearing; are they smiling; what color are their eyes and their hair; how tall are they? With that first impression, do you know how old they are; how many siblings they have; are they married with children; do they like their job; do they struggle with finances; are they happy; are they grieving?
First impressions are important, definitely. But they do not tell the whole story of a person. From our first glance at someone we unconsciously begin to make assessments and opinions about that person. And this often occurs before they even speak! That is the reason “first impressions” are so very critical. Sure you can help a person move beyond their first impression of you by getting to know you, but that will take time.
Some people will make faulty impressions no matter what. And ultimately what others think of us should not matter to us. We need to be true to ourselves first and foremost. Some circumstances, like entering into new business relationships or meeting potential in-laws, that first impression is important to get further meetings.
Taking time to consider how you want to present yourself is often important. In some circumstances, it won’t have a big impact but in others situations, you want to start with a good first impression! When you want a first impression to be a beginning of a relationship, you might want to put your best efforts into that first impression. Only then will you have the time for the person to get to know the real you, not just at appearance level. And as well all know, appearances can be deceiving.
As you journey along your path, may you always show up with a great first impression.